{"id":9898,"date":"2024-02-04T10:54:32","date_gmt":"2024-02-04T10:54:32","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/internationalschoolcommunity.com\/blog\/?p=9898"},"modified":"2024-03-19T09:03:12","modified_gmt":"2024-03-19T09:03:12","slug":"ten-commandments-of-relocating-overseas-10-do-not-allow-negative-comments-and-attitudes-to-darken-your-outlook-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/internationalschoolcommunity.com\/blog\/ten-commandments-of-relocating-overseas-10-do-not-allow-negative-comments-and-attitudes-to-darken-your-outlook-2\/","title":{"rendered":"#10 Rule of Relocating Abroad: Protect your mind from negative influence"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Surround yourself with positive people. Do not allow negative comments and attitudes to darken your outlook.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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It is hard to stay positive, but when culture shock is at its worst, it is very easy to slip.  Sure the other new teachers at your school (and the veteran ones) have a lot to say to you about the host country and culture, but you just might find yourself joining in with them. Commence the inevitable negative thought process!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

“When one door of happiness closes, another opens, but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us.” \u2013 Helen Keller<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is hard to know exactly about the meaning behind those negative comments from your coworkers (or from yourself).  Are they saying those things because that is just what you do and say when you are an expat, even if it is said like it is only a joke?  On the other hand, people say things as a joke under stressful times and there is usually much truth behind their negative comments.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Some things are small and people are easily quick to be negative about it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

“Why do I have a pay this media tax? I never had to pay this in any of the other countries I’ve lived in.  I don’t even have a TV.  I refused to pay this stupid fee!”<\/p>\n\n\n\n

“Seriously the internet in this country is so slow. You can’t even access Facebook and YouTube here.  Now I have to pay for a VPN service, which usually makes my internet connection even slower!”<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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“Nothing is open around here.\u00a0 Good luck finding a store open after 18 hours here.”<\/p>\n\n\n\n

“Arg! It is so dirty here. I open the windows to my apartment and one hour later the floors are covered in a thin layer of dust. I can’t wait to move back to a cleaner country!”<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are many more things to talk negatively about when living in another country.  We forgot too, under the influence of culture shock, that there are many negative aspects to living in our home country as well (e.g. getting a cable service repair person to come to your home to fix your internet or cable).  <\/p>\n\n\n\n

People complain and obsess about negative aspects of their lives in their home countries too.  But some might say that is your country so maybe you are “allowed” to say negative things every once in a while about your own culture and way of doing things.  Is it different or the same then when living abroad?  When you are in a host country, the country is your “host.”  Certainly, we all would agree that you should try and be gracious to your host.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Some things though are NOT small and can be quite important concerning your life abroad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

“Be ready to not get paid on time.  Last year, we didn’t get paid until three weeks after the salary payment date! Why don’t we get paid on time?  There is nothing we can do about too.”<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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“The building management in our apartment complex steals our money.  They are giving us bills that are way more expensive than the locals that are living in our building.”<\/p>\n\n\n\n

“I have been waiting for six months to get reimbursed for things that I purchased for the school!  I am also waiting to get reimbursed for my flight allowance….for LAST YEAR!”<\/p>\n\n\n\n

“My last school didn’t have this much work to do.  It is unbelievable about much I have to work at this school.  I don’t know if I can handle working until 19:00 every day after school!”<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When there is something negative related to your home, your salary, or your money (in general), then it is very easy to be sensitive to these situations.  Maybe then you are allowed to voice your concerns (i.e. be a bit negative).  Hopefully, though there is something that you can do about it; get your school administration involved, the local police, etc.  Also, it is important to remember that these things might be temporary as well, inconveniences that will pass after a few weeks or months.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

“Don`t be trapped by Dogma \u2013 which is living the results of other people`s thinking.   Don`t let the noise of others drown out your inner voice.   And most important, dare to follow your heart and intuition.” \u2013 Steve Jobs.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So, knowing that there are going to be negative comments heard and negative comments coming out of your mouth at some point, the key is to try and stay positive as much as possible.  Don’t let the negative thoughts and comments take over and take control of your thinking.  Your life in your new country will be full of ups and downs, that is a given.  Realizing that simple thing, could dramatically keep your negative thoughts to a minimum.  Also, maybe think twice about sharing all of your negative thoughts with your friends and coworkers, some might be best to keep to yourself anyways.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How do you try and stay positive in your current placement?  Share<\/a> your comments with the rest of the International School Community<\/a> readers.

This article was submitted anonymously by an ISC member.<\/em> Check out the rest of the 10 Commandments of Relocated Overseas here<\/a>.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Surround yourself with positive people. Do not allow negative comments and attitudes to darken your outlook. It is hard to stay positive, but when culture shock is at its worst, it is very easy to slip.  Sure the other new teachers at your school (and the veteran ones) have a lot to say to you […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":9899,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2}},"categories":[49],"tags":[38,39,40,41,42,29,43,33,44,45,46,47,48],"class_list":["post-9898","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-ten-commandments-of-relocating-overseas","tag-cultural","tag-culture-misunderstanding","tag-culture-shock","tag-cultures","tag-expat-life","tag-international-school","tag-international-school-educators","tag-international-teaching","tag-laugh-at-yourself","tag-life-overseas","tag-living-abroad","tag-relocating-overseas","tag-sense-of-humor"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/internationalschoolcommunity.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/02\/people-1540749_1280.jpg?fit=1280%2C853&ssl=1","jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/p2flVT-2zE","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"jetpack-related-posts":[{"id":9687,"url":"https:\/\/internationalschoolcommunity.com\/blog\/ten-commandments-of-relocating-overseas-9-maintain-a-sense-of-humor-but-most-importantly-be-ready-to-laugh-at-yourself\/","url_meta":{"origin":9898,"position":0},"title":"Ten Commandments of Relocating Overseas #9: Maintain a sense of humor, but most importantly be ready to laugh at yourself.","author":"ISCommunity","date":"November 20, 2023","format":false,"excerpt":"Maintain a sense of humor, but most importantly be ready to laugh at yourself. 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